Touch Her* Right
A 30-day experiment in touching your partner the way they actually want to be touched
I touched my wife wrong for 16 years.
Not because I didn't love her. Because I touched her the way I wanted to be touched.
Most women don't want less touch. What they want is touch that's for them.
When you stop crowding her with your touch, she finds her own.
And when she finds her own, you get something you may not have had in a while: a partner who actually reaches for you.
Week 1: See It.
You can't change what you don't notice. This week you watch the pattern. Nothing changes yet. That's the point.
Week 2: Ask.
Two questions. Every day. Not as a setup for anything. As the experiment itself. "Do you want to be touched right now? If so, how?"
Week 3: Their Turn.
Your partner joins. Their yes only means something when they can actually say no. The no is what makes the yes real.
Week 4: Integrate.
Everything you've learned, applied. More closeness. Less pressure. More of each other.
This is not a sex workbook. It's not a technique manual.
It's a 30-day reset on one of the most loaded things in any long term relationship: who touch is actually for.
Who is this for?
The couple that's drifted a little and wants something concrete to do about it.
The partner who keeps getting it wrong and knows it.
The one who's been quietly allowing touch they don't actually want.
If one of you gave this to the other, that's already the conversation starting.
$27. Instant PDF workbook.
Start tonight.
About us
Dr. Assael Romanelli is a couples therapist, clinical supervisor, and Psychology Today contributor with over 2 million readers. He's spent two decades in the room with couples doing the hardest work of their lives. He wrote this workbook because he had to do it himself first.
Galit Romanelli is a certified relationship coach, PhD candidate in gender studies, and co-director of The Potential State. She's been in this experiment too. From both sides.
Together they run The Potential State, where they work with couples who want the same partner and a different marriage.